Do you seek to be less reactive, less judgmental, and more understanding of others? Using techniques of active understanding, you can find a healthier way of interacting with the people in your life. In this self-help guide, retired psychiatrist Charles DeLong shares what he learned after three decades of private practice psychotherapy. He provides theories, examples, and steps to guide you through how to use active understanding to approach yourself, others, and the world. Using active understanding principles helps us “get beyond ourselves” so that we can stay connected to the external reality. This not only increases our ability to adapt, but is also safer and more satisfying than being dependent upon the environment. What’s more, it allows us to grow emotionally, evolve our personalities, and live with personal integrity. Active understanding teaches us to • stay in the here-and-now reality • not take anything personally • resist narcissistic defaults • stop judging others Discover the deeper meaning behind your emotions and learn simple ways of improving your relationships and your life.