Marriage can be the most meaningful bond we form, and sometimes the most painful to let go.
Bad Marriage, Good Divorce
is part memoir, part guidebook, written by Kevin J. Grannes, a veteran, therapist, and doctoral student in clinical psychology. This book offers both raw storytelling and professional insight to help readers understand why relationships unravel and how healing after divorce is possible.
Through honest reflection and clinical perspective, Kevin explores trauma, attachment, and resilience in love and loss.
His personal journey, marked by betrayal, growth, and eventual acceptance, shows how even the most difficult endings can lead to transformation. Readers are invited to walk alongside him as he recounts a marriage that fractured under the weight of unhealed wounds, unresolved conflict, and painful choices. Each chapter pairs lived experience with reflections from evidence-based practice, including trauma-informed care, attachment theory, and cognitive-behavioral therapy. This combination makes the book deeply relatable while also grounded in clinical wisdom.
is more than a story about separation; it is a roadmap for anyone questioning whether to stay or leave, navigating divorce, or seeking peace after heartbreak. The book offers
practical exercises
that help readers reflect on their own patterns,
lessons learned
that highlight resilience and growth, and
gentle guidance
for making sense of complex emotions. Kevin encourages readers to recognize how trauma and attachment influence the way we love, how we argue, and how we let go. By doing so, he provides not only validation but also tangible strategies for rebuilding a life after divorce.
This book speaks directly to veterans, spouses, and anyone who has loved deeply and lost.
It acknowledges the unique challenges of military marriages while also reaching beyond that world to address universal struggles of intimacy, betrayal, and recovery. Whether you are standing at the crossroads of a failing relationship, in the middle of divorce, or on the other side searching for meaning,
will meet you where you are.
For those who have been told to "move on" or "just get over it," this book offers a different message:
you can grieve, you can heal, and you can grow stronger than before.
Divorce does not have to be the end of your story. With courage, insight, and the right tools, it can be the beginning of a healthier, more authentic life.
For anyone ready to transform pain into growth, this book is an invitation to rediscover your strength and embrace the possibility of peace.