Choosing a spouse is complicated and personal. It takes wisdom because early attraction and emotional anguish can make it easy to miss the most important characteristics while seeking companionship. Relationships are like fruit trees; you need to discover the perfect seed, plant it, and water and nourish it to develop and thrive in a healthy environment so you may enjoy its fruits. The same applies in marriage; everything is about nurturing personal and marital growth as you live together. You need to focus more on success driven by your physical and emotional availability, shared long-term goals, beliefs, a solid foundation, and a positive, healthy, sustainable, and meaningful lifestyle for years to come.