"I hope I can convey this to you properly." Looking straight at me in the eyes, she proceeded: "I am a firm believer that life does prepare us for the difficult things. In other words, I think we come to our existence somehow ready to go through the tough times. Big events such as death, illness, major losses of all kinds - these are the big things every human being will go through, sooner or later. Yet, somehow we are equipped to withstand these hard experiences. On the other hand, I don't think we are always fit to deal with small things or situations. As an example, circumstances that get us involved in bickering, petty arguments and undesirable acts may escalate if we don't pay attention to as to how to deal with them. And these things, the little details that we tend to overlook in relationships of all nature - at work, in friendships, at home with siblings and parents and, most importantly, in a marriage - are the very things that undermine the same relationships and more than often bring them to an end. Sometimes amicably, sometimes loaded with anger, mistrust and hatred. Only because we tend to ignore the little things." -
Why Not? A Memoir